Someone recently asked me, are there rules to being successful?
The short answer is yes.
There are no limits to being successful, but certain rules can assist you on your journey.
Here are a few things to keep in mind:
- Follow your passion: It will be tough to stay motivated if you aren’t enthusiastic about doing. Make something yourself that you enjoy and pursue it!
Is it more important to you: financial freedom or loving what you do and working 80 hours a week? Make your choice clear.
- Set reasonable goals and be willing to work hard: It’s critical to have ambition and aim high but make sure your objectives are realistic, so you don’t get discouraged.
Sidenote: (Not to mention that you’ll be spending about $500 million for your sons to attend college. Is it worth it, though?
Remember that success doesn’t come easily. It takes effort, hard work, and dedication.
- Take action and make positive changes, not inaction and hoping for a fast cure.
Sidenote: When it comes to getting motivated, small steps are more successful than New Year’s resolutions and losing interest in Week 3.
Why Do You Need More Rules And Fewer Goals?
I set far fewer goals for myself nowadays. Instead of goals, I establish rules for success.
Please don’t think that I’ve already figured everything out. I’m still learning, and I’ll always be! But here’s what I’ve learned about being successful thus far:
A goal is more likely to be broken than a rule.
My rules are:
What’s the difference between a rule and a goal?
A goal is a target, and it’s something you desire to reach or aspire to. On the other hand, a rule is a law that must be followed, and it’s non-negotiable, so it has to be done no matter what happens.
Rules also have an additional hidden benefit, they become habits.
The brain is a habit brain, also called the subconscious brain.
To explain why I think it’s a good idea to have “rules” in your company.
Some people believe that the difference between a goal and a rule is just a language question, but I feel there’s more to it than that. Goals instill optimism; rules, on the other hand, demand action.
The focus of goals is on what you want to achieve; the focus of rules is how you will reach that objective.
Here’s an example:
“My goal is to obtain straight A’s this year.” That sounds ambitious, but it isn’t much more.
The following statement is reframed as a rule for success: “I make time to study every day after school for at least two hours,” and “I’m going to use at least 10 test-taking tactics that will help me relax about examinations.”
You’re more likely to achieve your objectives if you take specific actions.
Rules are critical in both sports and life
Hear me out…
We should also avoid overloading our lives with regulations.
I’d even suggest disregarding many of the useless “rules” we hear every day that don’t have a positive effect in your life.
The rules that say things such as:
||What it means
||“There’s always a right and a wrong response.”
||That you should be afraid of making mistakes and not try anything new in life.
||“Avoid failure at all costs.”
||Again, fear of failure statement. Instead think of failure is a feedback mechanism for what does not work, then try something else until you do find something that works.
||“Do well in school, and you’ll do well in life.”
||This is old programming, an it means to follow orders in your job. Doing well in school has nothing to do with success in real life.
Victory has more to do with it than simply reaching specific financial or educational goals. That said, well-defined regulations have an essential part in life. Let’s take a look at sports for some good inspiration:
- When attempting free throws in basketball, you must stand behind the line.
- When you serve in tennis, the ball must land within the box.
- Only the goalkeeper is permitted to use their hands in soccer.
Rules keep these games organized, enjoyable, and exciting. There would be too much confusion and mayhem if it weren’t for the rules.
Setting rules for success in life may also help you live more intentionally and achieve what’s most important.
What you want now vs. what you want most
What do you want to accomplish right now? Do you want to watch TV, go on social media, or indulge in junk food? What do you want to do most? Probably, you’ll want to engage in meaningful work, develop close relationships, volunteer, exercise, or learn more.
When we think of freedom, we usually consider doing what we want right now. However, my conception of freedom is doing more of what you value most—those things that are genuinely essential.
That’s easier said than done.
We tend to prioritize immediate pleasure over long-term fulfillment. However, by establishing boundaries or rules, we gain the freedom to concentrate on what we want most, even when it’s complicated.
Freedom implies having the right sort of limitations.
Freedom isn’t the absence of boundaries; instead, it’s about having the appropriate ones. Imagine if this fish didn’t have a “wall” around it. If someone broke the fishbowl and let all of the water out, the fish would not survive for more than a few minutes.
Rules and limitations keep us on track by assisting us in doing what we should and leading more full lives.
It would help if you had rules to lead a principles-centered life.
We’ve got a distinction between goals and rules for success, but we also need to differentiate principles from regulations. Principles are standards that don’t describe particular activities that you can or cannot perform.
Going back to the basketball example, the goal of basketball is to score more points than your opponent.
However, this rule does not tell you what you can and cannot do in your efforts to outperform your adversary. Should you take half-court shots? Should you prioritize defense or attack? Is it preferable to dribble or pass more often?
You might choose to live by specific rules, but that isn’t enough to ensure your good intentions translate into dedicated action and persistent results.
For example, you might decide that your life should be devoted to providing rather than winning.
That is a noble idea to abide by, but what does it look like in practice? For example, when do you need to complete a 10-page paper by the end of tomorrow? You can live by principles in theory, and in reality, you must adhere to rules to put those ideas into action.
For example, if you want to live a life of kindness, generosity, and bravery, saying, “today I’m going to be kind, charitable, and brave,” will not help.
Instead, you’ll need to establish rules that will enable you to live out those principles regularly. A great life cannot be built in a day, and one day at a time, one decision, we create successful and meaningful lives.
10 Rules for Living a Successful Life
|Live with integrity
||Make your mother proud by living in a way that she would be proud of, even if she knew every darkest moment of your life. There is no such thing as perfection. We all make errors at one time or another. However, we should always aim to do the best possible and live with integrity. For me, doing the right thing regardless of whether or not others are watching is essential.
|Do what it is that ignites your soul
||I have learned that the world is wrong about one thing. It is not true that success brings happiness. Happiness, on the other hand, leads to success. When we do what is in our hearts, we are most content.
- We are most alive and naturally inclined to give 100 percent of our energy and effort when we are at our happiest.
- When we give 100 percent of ourselves to every minute of every day, amazing things may happen.
Dreams can become a reality. Do what makes you truly happy.
The strange thing is that we have little control over who or what we love in life.
- Our hearts desire whatever they desire, regardless of reason or logic. It’s a signal if you’re feeling strongly drawn to someone or anything.
Accept it (as long as it isn’t harming anyone or forcing you to do anything unethical or depraved). The world does not require more individuals who blindly pursue material goods. No, the world needs more genuinely living people to contribute to making it a better place for everyone. Finally, I’d rather risk being a failure in something I love than be confident of being a failure in anything.
|Find mentors and role models.
||Find mentors and role models who have already achieved what you want to achieve in life. If you desire genuine love, look at what the longest-married couples have done to keep their relationships alive for decades. Study what the finest lawyers in your area or nation did to acquire their reputations if your ambition is to be the most outstanding lawyer in your nation. Find those who are successful and study how they did it so that you can follow in their footsteps. Success leaves clues; look for people who have done it before and may help you along the way. Look for mentors and role models that have accomplished similar things to yours. Study the careers of great people and learn how they did it to be a World Champion. Find millionaire role models who you would like to emulate in the future if you want to be a millionairess. If you want to be an entrepreneur, look for entrepreneurs that inspire you and analyze how they reached their goals. Without a doubt, mentors and role models are your quickest routes to realizing your full potential in life. You’ll improve your chances of success and avoid avoidable blunders by learning from the mistakes of others. The past is always a great example of what to do and what not to do.
|Grow 1% every day.
||The essence of life is to be an ongoing work in progress. We are all evolving beings. Nobody is perfect. The essential thing is to keep learning, developing, and evolving every day. Compounding’s influence on our lives can be compared to a hurricane or tidal wave that never stops growing bigger and stronger over time. Whether you’re growing something by 1% every day, 0.1% a day, 5%, or not at all, it doubles in value after just 70 days if you increase it by 1%. Of course, determining whether you’re increasing yourself by 1% each day or 0 percent is impossible. My point is that we should all try to learn, develop, and evolve every day. It’s a way of life. It is a relaxed attitude. It’s a way of life that you live every day. Every day is a precious opportunity to get better at anything you choose while remaining the same person inside.
|Surround yourself with excellence to unleash your potential.
||We are all the average of the five individuals we spend the most time with. You will become a dreamer and achiever if you engage with visionaries and achievers. You will become a hater and doubter if you surround yourself with haters and critics. I make an effort to surround myself with people who inspire me to dream bigger, accomplish more, and be more in every area of my life. I can tell you from my experience in the martial arts business that World Champions are only made when a fantastic team of individuals surround them: training partners, coaches, relatives, company executives, and others. It takes an entire army to create a World Champion in martial arts. Every other profession has this exact requirement. It is not possible to succeed on your own. There’s a saying from my country that I enjoy. If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to travel far, go as a group.
||Deaths are merely stepping stones on your road to success. Accept them as fantastic chances to learn, develop, and progress. In every area of my life, I’ve failed numerous times. On the other hand, my mistakes in life have frequently served as a foundation for my most significant accomplishments in life. I’ve never met a successful individual in any area who hasn’t failed. The most accomplished persons on the planet frequently have tales of failure before achieving success. Failure is the key to your success.
|Give more than you take.
||I will always aim for win-win situations in all of my relationships, but I also try to give more than I receive from all of my connections, whether it’s in my personal or professional life. It’s not necessarily selfless; instead, it’s a long-term relationship approach. When you create win-win situations and make sure to provide value for the other side, you will always be in a favorable position. If you do the reverse, you will always be negative. Gratitude is an attractive force that draws us toward it. Greed is an instinctive repellant. The typical man tries to obtain as much as he can from the world. On the other hand, the exceptional guy aims to provide something back to the world. I wholeheartedly believe in this adage, and I endeavor to practice it.
|Eliminate the bad apples.
||I’m a firm believer in surrounding myself with great individuals who bring good energy. People frequently ask me why I take such a long time to hire and fire my businesses. Because I think a company’s culture is its source of extraordinary success, I am very cautious about hiring new people. An antagonistic culture leads to low morale and poor performance. Every new employee is essential to a company’s culture. I fire people fast because there is nothing more severe than an awful apple that ruins the pleasure of others, brings the team down, or fails to represent the team’s common ideals. Negative, self-centered, and entitled people are also the worst in life. It takes fortitude and bravery to get rid of the bad apples from your life so that you may realize your full potential. Consider them deadweight bricks. Remove the deadweight bricks from your life, and see what happens to your life.
|Choose light over dark.
||There is a fight in each of us every day. Don’t give in to irritation, avarice, sloth, jealousy, hatred, revenge, pridefulness, or any other form of bad energy. I firmly believe that negative energy attracts more negative energy. If you dwell with negativity for extended periods, you will soon attract complainers, whiners, doubters, and naysayers as a result of it. Make an effort to utilize good energy, such as gratitude, humility, patience, fortitude, kindness, hard work, and charity. It doesn’t suggest that we all have to live in the light with good energy all the time; it’s just impossible because we’re all human. However, I do my best to make a conscious effort to choose light over darkness every day. Wrong and damaging choices are better or worse than good and positive ones. Every day, you have the opportunity to nourish your thoughts with what you put in your mouth.
|Live with a warrior spirit.
|| The secret to preserving your idea is not simply to make it unbreakable but also to maintain a good attitude. We all face adversity in this life. It’s just a part of life. Life isn’t always fair. Some of us will lose loved ones prematurely. Some of us will have health issues occur. Some of us may face poverty. Some of us might suffer from bad luck. Make a vow that you will always do your best and fight the good fight, regardless of what happens in your life. Be a warrior. It doesn’t matter how many times you fall in life as long as you get back up to pursue your goals.
How To Make Rules Work For You
For me, these rules for success in life are effective, and I hope they may be beneficial to you as well. You don’t have to follow each regulation listed here and create your list of rules to live by after using what works for you.
Start by determining what you consider success to be. After all, it’s not simply about obtaining straight A’s or amassing money, and those things don’t define your self-esteem in and of themselves.
Instead, ask these questions:
Then create an Excel sheet with specific answers to your rules:
|What do I love to do and what I’m I good at?
||I love to talk to people, that’s what I’m good at
|What is the most important for my health well being?
||I exercise 5 days a week for 45 min each time
|What is my rule for success?
||I give more value than I take
|How can I grow my skills everyday
||I read 30 minutes in my field every morning
It’s okay if you don’t know all of the answers.
These questions are tools for you to begin determining what is significant and essential to you.
Next, pick a rule you’d like to follow. Please make a list or save it in note-taking software. Get detailed about when and how you’ll put the regulation into action.
Spend a month focusing on each example until it becomes a habit.
Then, the following month, create one more rule.
Remember, we’re creating rules for success in life, not a list of lofty objectives.
But don’t be concerned.
You’ll undoubtedly achieve your objectives as long as you establish the appropriate regulations.